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  • MHP Services
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  • Coping Tools: Stress reduction, sleep, relaxation and more!
    • Relaxation and Mindfulness updated
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      • Reducing less healthy coping strategies
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    • breakup bootcamp worksheet
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    • Romantic Relationships
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  • Suicidal Thoughts & Behaviors
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UCSB MHP

Dating & Relationships
in the Queer Community

Many LGBTQ students find it difficult to meet others in the community, whether they are just interested in developing friendships or they are interested in dating. Dating can be an exciting adventure but it can also be pretty anxiety-provoking. Dating is particularly challenging when you first come out and/or when you are uncertain about aspects of your gender or sexual identity.  You aren't alone in finding dating hard!
Check out the articles below to learn more about how to navigate the world of dating.

How Do I Meet Someone?

In the digital age, many folks explore dating through the use of dating apps. For some people, the thought of using a dating app can feel intimidating and overwhelming. If dating apps are not your thing, don't sweat it...checkout the RCSGD to find orgs and events to meet others, and check out the Pacific Pride, and SBTan websites to find groups in the SB area so that you can go meet up with other folks in the LGBTQ community.

If you do want to try using apps for dating, check out the articles below to learn more about some of the apps that folks in the LGBTQ community say they use regularly and learn what they like about the features of each app. This is not an exhaustive list of all apps out there, nor is it an endorsement for particular apps. The most important thing is that you find an app that you feel most comfortable using and that keeps your safety and privacy a priority.
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Digital Trends Best
LGBTQ dating apps
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Dating Apps Lesbians, Queer, & Bi Women Will Actually Want To Use
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Gay dating apps: A comprehensive guide
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Apps Friendly to the transgender community

Basic Guidelines for a Successful First Date

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So you've met someone that seems interesting and want to go on a date. Cool!

It's normal to have a mix of feelings--excitement, nervousness, and even fear--and to start imagining how the date will unfold. Here’s some tips for how to set yourself up to have reasonable expectations for the first date, relax, and have a great time.

Read the article "How to go on a first date that doesn't suck"
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Managing Challenges in Dating

Read the article
"8 Unique LGBTQ Dating Problems"
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REad the Article "7 Queer Girl Dating Problems
and How to Deal"
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REad the Article "Dating While Non-binary"
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read the article "Gay Men’s Relationships: 10 Ways They Differ From Straight Relationships"
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Read the arTicle "looking for love and acceptance:
dating while trans in america"

Read this article for tips on how to stay safe on LGBTQPIA+ dating apps!

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Check out our page outlining the basics for...

Creating Foundations for Healthy Romantic Relationshi
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Let's talk About Sex....

Whether you are sexually active or not, physical intimacy is an important part of a healthy romantic relationship. Want to learn how to have a more fulfilling physical relationship with your partner? Topics on this site cover everything from understanding the basics of your and your partner's body, understanding different forms of sexual activity, learning to communicate about each of your values and desires around physical intimacy, practicing sexual health, and more! Don't skip the teen corner either...there are important insights for a healthy sexual self here for people of all ages.
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Check out this UCSB site for more info!

Finding Love

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Click here to connect to Out.com Love Stories in the LGBTQ community
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Click here to connect to LGBTQ love stories on Tumblr

Dating & Domestic Violence

Sometimes in dating relationships partners will endure emotional, physical, or sexual abuse from their partner. These behaviors are used to establish power and control over the person and can happen regardless of a person's gender, race, ability status, or any other identity. You have the right to be treated with respect and care in your relationship. Read the infographic to learn more about the red flags that indicate potential interpersonal abuse.
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If you find yourself in a relationship in which you are experiencing emotional, physical, or sexual abuse and want some help, please call to speak with a CARE advocate.
(805) 893-4613
AVAILABLE 24 HRS A DAY. CONFIDENTIAL.
To learn more about CARE services click here
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